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Have you ever been told you’re “too perfect” as a reason for someone breaking up with you? I’m a 26 year old man now, and I’ve probably had five serious/serious-ish relationships in my life and every. single. damn. time. that’s what I get told when people are breaking up with me. I’ve come to accept that I’m a pretty good looking guy - I’m 6’01 and have really nicely kept black curly hair, and even though I’m 240lbs I wear my weight with confidence, like I’m trying to work out more for my health, but I still look damn good for a bigger guy. Personality wise, I literally win customer service awards at work, where I’m a highly skilled security tech that makes a good amount of money. I’m introverted but make a good effort to put myself out there to a point where I know I’m the guy that can make jokes at a party everyone is gonna laugh at. Beyond that, I get told all the time I’m a really, really caring person. In some of my spare time I work with a group of incredible kids to teach them coding and play D&D with them, they like me so much they 3D printed me a gift they all helped each other make as a thank you for being so much cooler than the last guy that did it.

SO WHAT THE FUCK could possibly be the reason that I just can’t seem to hold onto anyone in my life? Like it’s embarrassing and depressing that my best friend in the world and only friend is my brother’s girlfriend. I’ll admit, I had to do a lot of self reflection somewhat recently to realize I was holding a lot of self worth in how I administered care to people. Like, I decided that the only way I’d be worthy of love was if I was useful to people, but even now I still can’t even seem to find a friend, much less hold onto a relationship, and the answer is always, ALWAYS the same: “You did nothing wrong. You were perfect, actually. I just think I’m not gonna be a good match for you.”

Sidenote: I really dislike how gross it makes me feel to be bearing all this to the court of public opinion, but don’t hold back. I’ve tried therapy, that was great in rebuilding the foundation of my confidence. But maybe I need a communal place where I can just, unpack it for whoever wants to add something. If you have had similar experiences, or questions about what I might be doing wrong, definitely let me know.